Thread: Lonely Rooster

It is mostly talking about my current situation right now. As the days progress, I find myself thinking more and more about home. And with this comes the thought that I want to go home more and more everyday. I was just exploring some of the reasons why I want to go home (the girl, the friends) and some of the reasons why I should not go home (the massive amounts of sacrafices I made to get here).

This is fairly normal for anyone moving to a foreign country. I have read that there are stages that all expats go through when they move to another country. At first there is the initial excitement of everything being new, then later there are feelings of frustration when things don't go exactly as planned, maybe they had a bad experience like getting sick or robbed :shock: Then if you stay long enough there is an eventual acceptance of your life in the foreign country and starts to feel more like your own home. Many people who spend a long time living overseas even experience reverse culture shock when go back to their native country. I know I have had that experience a couple of times.

Bali is certainly a great place to visit, but does the shine eventually wear off? Is it better in the long run to protect that 'magic' and just make the place a temporary home? It is possible to have too much of a good thing. It scares me to think that what excites me know might become mundane and routine in the future. Anyone have any thoughts on this??

I think this is definitely true, Adam. Like anything there are so many positives and some negatives about living here long term. Health care is probably one of the most serious.

I am enjoying living here right now. Even having a bad experience like getting robbed, it was nice to see the support of our friends here. I never feel that life here is mundane or routine. Every day something seems to pop up and there is never a dull moment. I agree it is not for everyone and would recommend to anyone considering moving here to make a few trips here of increasing lengths of time before moving completely.

Me, when I'm feeling homesick I just go up the mountain where the locals all take their huge testicles for a walk and then think about the traffic jam on the way to a boring fecking job I am missing back "home".

Having been an "expat" for most of the last 40 years in one country or another I can only agree that there are many things that are attractive about "home" and that we all miss but in my humble experience it don't take no time at all until the foreign place gains the same familiarity as "home" once had.

And you know the funny thing? You can't go "home" - you won't like it and it isn't the same and the things you so desperately missed in the foreign country aren't nearly so nice or as much fun/tasty/exciting/beautiful (insert your own explicative). Your friends have all moved on/divorced/died/(insert your own explicative) and feel like you abandoned them anyway, which in all honestly, you did :lol:

So just go up that mountain where the locals take there huge testicles for a walk next time you feel homesick - works every time for me :shock:

Oh, the huge testicles I'm talking about are those ones attached to a small pig... :mrgreen: I'm reliably informed it makes them more potent and able to do the deed more often - needless to say I won't be taking mine up the same route, the exercise would probably kill me.

Originally Posted by Markit

And you know the funny thing? You can't go "home" - you won't like it and it isn't the same and the things you so desperately missed in the foreign country aren't nearly so nice or as much fun/tasty/exciting/beautiful (insert your own explicative). Your friends have all moved on/divorced/died/(insert your own explicative) and feel like you abandoned them anyway, which in all honestly, you did :lol:

So just go up that mountain where the locals take there huge testicles for a walk next time you feel homesick - works every time for me

Yea, I feel the same since the last time back to "home", so I take the plunge continue to live different cities, thenafter stayed few weeks in sweet home and move to Bali, although it must with some or a lot of difficulties, but I feel so tired now....

It's sound ridiculous to me that spend two hours on the way to the nearest Agong mountain to have a look huge testicles when I feel homesick, except a fool wud do such thing...?! Im insane not idiot :wink:

Having been an "expat" for most of the last 40 years in one country or another I can only agree that there are many things that are attractive about "home" and that we all miss but in my humble experience it don't take no time at all until the foreign place gains the same familiarity as "home" once had.

Aint that the truth. I miss only good bacon and sausages and British TV (Sad I am) and thats it. Like you as a professional expat I find great difficulty in relating to my average Brit back home.

They are not interested in my life and there vision of Saturday night at the pub talking footbal bores me to tears. I have far more in common with any expat.

Homesick...I never quite understood that concept...
But after I came back to Thailand from the Phills (6 months ago) I felt a sweet pain in the heart. I truely missed the people I met there...

Right now...I am not a tourist, nor am I an expat, I am just MiSo on Bali. Since I found peace in my heart & head I am able to do what I am doing, which is living like a cigana.
Last week it was tough though, someone I love very much is in the middle of a difficult situation and I felt worried & sad. I felt more needed there than here and wanted to go back. But after a long conversation I decided to stay. These situations are killing, I am sure you all know what I am talking about.

My meds...? No Markit, no testicals are involved... :)
But swimming laps like crazy, practising the most difficult yoga postures, listening music for hours (6 hours in a row is normal), writing things like "it's raining elephants today",
cooking things I usually don't eat. And med (as in meditation) always works for me.
And I am so happy having this wonderful, funny friend living near me -hearts-hearts-

Guys, why not start a lonely heart-club? :D

Originally Posted by MiSO

Guys, why not start a lonely heart-club? :D

what is a lonely heart club?

It depends, what would it mean to you...

Well...I read posts of people having these homesick moments, and sometimes you just need to be alone. But sometimes it is nice to be with someone else/ others. Just to watch a movie, or eat, play pool, cook or listen to live music (right now a musician is singing and playing the guitar)
Or tell the lousiest jokes, smoke filthy mentol cigarettes ...whatever pops up.
Or do and say nothing, just be together.

A homesick-club :D

A Lonely Hearts Club usually means something different in English. It would be considered somewhere to find a partner.