Thread: Lost my House to a Balinese in Ubud

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Yes, I agree with you 100%.

playful dragonfly...

I think it is part of the Balinese way to use the money for an Emergency etc (as they see an Emergency?) rather than lose face by asking for it, for his wife or child etc...
I have never sent money as I believe they lived OK before me & my western $$$'s & can do so when I am around.
We have an account set up for the family & have only just sent some $$$$'s (not much) to help pay for Gede's brother schooling.
But perhaps your friend & business partner really needed this money & felt ashamed to ask you for it & then felt bad for not sending the stock, so could not call...?
I don't want to bring up bad feelings or make you reasses the situation, but I think you need to go back & bury the hatchet!? :?

Good Luck to you Alice, you have learnt from your mistakes & in that can teach your daughters...
Things do happen to make us stronger & to teach us...

A few months before that final $400.00 order I had called my friend/partner and placed another order. Part of that order was for items he makes, and another part of the order was from another guy I always bought from. Well, a period of time passed and the goods had not arrived so I called Wy. (my friend) and inquired about the delay. Wy. explained that he had completed making his part of my order but had given the cash for the rest of the order to the other supplier. The other supplier had not delivered the things. We waited for another week or so and finally Wy. sent his part of the order but I never received the things from the other supplier. Oh dear...this is so hard to write about and have it make any since! The first question that popped into my mind was WHY did Wy. give the cash before he had the items in hand. He knew how I did business...policies and proceedures so to speak. I always gave deposits and then final payment upon delivery. It seemed strange to me that he would just hand over the full amount to the other guy. I didn't give it much thought at the time. The amount of loss was about $200.00. It wasn't until the next (and final) order when I began to wonder if Wy. was being honest with me or just using me. He had called me from time to time (collect) during the years we worked together...but not in the end. Well, needless to say, I was crushed. It was never about the money. It was always about trust, character, honesty, integrity, etc. That is what shook me up. Oh well, it was a big learning experience...that's for sure.

I hate to tell ya this too, but there will be dishonest, deceitful, untrustworthy & backstabbing people everywhere you look in the world!? :(
I don't think you should punish yourself over the situation... I think you are feeling angry that you, yourself let this happen to you...? :?

Unfortunately the world will still spin if you don't get back to Bali ever again, but boy your missing out on Paradise.. :cry:

I wish you all the best & hope you make it back to Bali....

Ive been betrayed and taken advantage by many people. I do believe, I have Kick me written on my forhead sometimes. But i will say the wounds that come from Balinese seem to hurt more than normal. Im not sure why it feels that way but I do know its real. At my age now not alot gets to me, I love being alive and have little or no expectations on humans what so ever. Perhaps its expectations we put on Balinese that makes the hurt, hurt so badly.

I had a Balinese nannie that became like a sister too me, I loved her more than anyone could love anyone. One day I found out she slept with my husband. The betrayal and loss from that cut to bone and still does.
Not for the loss of te husband but for the loss of my Balinese sister. I forgave her, but she and I never recovered. Since then I've never let myself get close to another woman again.

I hope to see her in August.

WOW, Alice that is pretty bad, nice Nannie!?

But as I said previously this sort of caper happens all over the world!?
Your hubby probably chose the Nannie?
Possibly already seeing each other before?

Anyways, I hope you have a great, excellent holiday & catch up with naughty nannie & live & let live!!!!

Good Luck!

Na :( w I hired her and he did'nt meet her till I brought her back to the states.

Hi Alice, I feel the same...the wounds that come from Balinese seem to hurt more then normal. I also agree that these sort of capers happen all over the world, as Tracey mentioned in a couple of posts. I haven't been able to figure out why it hurt more when it involved a Balinese, it just did. In my own situation, it might have been that I believed my friend was very spiritual. Maybe he was just very clever. Enough time has passed that I can remember (without being sad) the good times and lessons learned through him. I'm grateful for all the experiences I had in my Bali days. I imagine I'll return some day....